Sex is a huge part of our lives - worldwide, we have sex 120 million times a day according to the recent 'Sexual Nature' exhibition at the Natural History Museum. So it amazes me at the lack of knowledge about it available to young people. This week, the BBC published a report claiming 'that one in four pupils do not have any sexual and relationship education in school.' I was one of them. Sadly my "sex ed" did not arrive until I was around 15 (by then I had begun having sex), and was part of a PSHRE (Personal Social Health & Religious Education) course, consisting of a lengthy discussion on love, marriage and children. Not wanting either children or a wedding ring, I wondered were I fit in. And what about other teenage girls out their in my position? Feeling biologically destined to, in the words of Betty Friedan 'breed and serve men'? As a society, are we happy to continue filling little girls' heads with ideas of the mysterious essence of "femininity", and to leave them dreaming of babies and housework? What I was even taught about myself biologically was relatively shady - my periods were not explained to me until I approached my mother in tears one wondering why I was bleeding "down there".
Apparently, I was becoming a woman.So is this what qualifies female? 'Tota mulier in utero'; does it simply come down to the belief woman is a womb? As Germaine Greer comments, little girls are not encouraged to ask questions or explore their genitalia, and consequently are left feeling ashamed, and quite frankly baffled by them! I was told nothing of contraception, and had to seek this information for myself, along with my two best friends, from a local Streetwise Clinic. Teenagers are calling out for better information regarding sex, and a program which covers the apparently forgotten issues of 'sexually transmitted infections, relationship and sexual consent advice or contraception'. Surely teaching only biological functions to teenagers simply reinforces the classic gender stereotyping. Scientists tell us now that our brains are conditioned to be male or female; "The female brain is predominantly hard-wired for empathy. The male brain is predominantly hard-wired for understanding and building systems," claims Professor Simon Baron-Cohen. Does this simply suggest that female "empathy" comes down to the mythical maternal instinct, while the male brain's ability for to take on more functional roles in society allow him to succeed in providing for his dependent family? When did genetics come in to determining gender roles? I feel it is time we consider how and why these social and cultural gender identities are reinforced through generations, and, from a more personal perspective, the damaging effect they have on women such as myself who are made to feel "unfeminine" and alien in society simply through they sexual ideals - because the truth behind gender and sexuality has been hidden under a proverbial fig leaf now for far too long.For more information on the recent BBC sexual education reports, please see http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/15260571 and http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-15255649